Orgasms 101 on LisaLiving
Check out my latest article Orgasms 101, on LisaLiving, in which I answer your questions about orgasms:
What is an orgasm?
What does it feel like?
What is the “right” way to orgasm?
What is a porn-gasm?
What body parts are involved in an orgasm?
Enjoy!
Fun Sex Positions
Burn Calories and Improve Flexibility While Getting It On
Warning: this post contains explicit language and is intended for those over the age of 18. If you are not yet 18, please click here for accurate sexuality information.
While sex offers an array of health benefits, one of its more obvious advantages is that it involves some degree of physical activity and you can burn extra calories while having fun. If you are looking to expand your sexual repertoire in the sex-positions department, read on, experiment and find the perfect combinations that work for you. The positions described below involve one man and one woman, but can be modified to suit two women, two men, threesomes, foursomes and larger groups.
The Director’s Chair: In this position, the man sits upright in a chair while the woman sits on his lap with her back to him. She can lower herself onto his penis with her feet on the ground or crouch with her feet propped up on the chair on either side of his legs. The second option will require some serious flexibility on her part — thank goodness for yoga! She can tilt and circle her hips to stimulate her clitoris against his shaft or either partner can use his/her hands to reach down between her legs. This position is even more fun in front of a mirror.
The Wheelbarrow: This is just like the wheelbarrow you formed with a partner when you were a child with the man standing upright supporting the lower body of the woman whose hands are on the ground in a push-up position. Rather than holding her feet, the man brings his pelvis between the woman’s legs. He holds her up by her thighs and she uses her hands on the ground to support herself. Either partner can perform thrusting or circular movements in this position, but the woman will require considerable upper body strength to maintain the movement. If her arms tire, she can take a break, lower onto her elbows and forearms or perform mini butt-pops instead of larger movements.
The Bridge: This position requires some strength and flexibility, but many find it is worth the effort. The woman lies on her back and the man kneels between her legs facing her. She can raise and wrap her legs around his hips as he penetrates her. She then reaches her palms over and behind her head flat against the ground. Her buttocks and hips should be lifted off the floor supported by her partner. When she feels up for it, she presses her palms against the ground to lift her entire back, head and buttocks off the floor so that her body forms a gymnastic bridge with only her hands on the floor. He supports her pelvis and lower body with his hands on her buttocks to reduce the weight she bears on her hands.
The Swan Dive: In this position the man sits on his buttocks with his back upright and his knees slightly bent. The woman straddles his pelvic area on her knees facing away from him so that they are both looking in the same direction. She lowers herself onto his penis and reaches behind her back to clasp her hands behind his neck for support as she leans forward. She should be on her knees with her body leaning forward at a fort-five degree angle to the ground. Her feet come off the ground behind his back and he holds them in his hands for support. Both partners can rock back and forth gently for clitoral, penile and vaginal stimulation. Consider placing a pillow beneath her knees to reduce impact.
Sideways: This position is simple. The woman lays on her side on the edge of the bed and the man stands upright on the ground beside her. She can use her hands, mouth and breasts to caress his penis and testicles and/or he can penetrate her vagina with his penis from various angles. If she rolls over to face away from him, he can stimulate her anus with his hands, mouth or penis. Use lots and lots of lube for anal play and be sure not to insert any objects that have been in the anus into the mouth or vagina without thorough washing and changing the condom.
Progress slowly when experimenting with new positions, make use of your healthy sense of homour and always practice safer sex.
Vulva, Vulva, Vulva
Vulva, vulva, vulva. Say it with pride if you have one or love one. Unlike the oh-so-popular vagina, with its many euphemisms à la va-jay-jay and other less-respectful terms, the vulva has not yet been put through the linguistic, misogynist ringer.
This lesser-known, but remarkably important region, is inaccurately used synonymously with the vagina. I’d like to officially clear things up:
The vagina is the interior space beginning at the entrance of the vagina and ending at the cervix (the entrance to the uterus). It is a muscular structure that can sometimes be difficult to locate for young women, as it is a potential space as opposed to a wide-open hole. The walls of the vagina generally touch in a relaxed state and during arousal this elastic tube-like structure can expand to accommodate an inserted object. The vagina is composed of expandable tissue and functions as a passageway for childbirth, provides a barrier against harmful bacteria and accommodates penises and other objects during sexual activity.
The vulva is comprised of the outer parts of a woman’s genital organs and is analogous to the lips of the face, while the vagina might be compared to the space inside the mouth. The vulva includes the inner and outer labia (lips), the vaginal opening, the clitoral glans and hood, the urethral meatus (pee hole) and the pubic mound (area over the pubic bone upon which pubic hair grows).
While the vagina is often referred to as the central feature of female sexuality and pleasure, it is the vulva that actually produces the most intense feelings of pleasure (and orgasm) for most women. This is because of the vulva’s exciting relationship with the clitoris. Though the clitoris is erroneously considered a small pea-sized bump rich in nerve endings, it is in fact a large, complex network of fun, pleasure-inducing parts that are interconnected with the vulva.
Sometimes compared to the penis, the eighteen-part clitoris is actually richer in nerve endings and unlike the penis, serves the sole function of providing pleasure. The clitoral glans, hood, bulb and crus include erectile tissue and sensitive nerve endings that can be stimulated by rubbing the vulva from top to bottom, including the inner and outer labia which overlie the erectile tissue of clitoris. For this reason, most women achieve the greatest pleasure and orgasm through the stimulation of their vulvas as opposed to penetration of the vagina alone.
For those over the age of eighteen who are interested in learning about a few specific techniques for pleasuring the vulva, check out these blog entries on the vulva caress and going down on a woman.
Let’s celebrate our beautiful vulvas and demystify some of the misconceptions about what’s going on between a woman’s legs. And now that we’ve cleared up the distinction between the vagina and the vulva, we can begin to discuss vaginal size as a follow-up to the recent penis-piece, “Does Size Really Matter?” Stay tuned for the next instalment, “Demystifying the Vagina”.