Fun Sex Positions
Burn Calories and Improve Flexibility While Getting It On
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While sex offers an array of health benefits, one of its more obvious advantages is that it involves some degree of physical activity and you can burn extra calories while having fun. If you are looking to expand your sexual repertoire in the sex-positions department, read on, experiment and find the perfect combinations that work for you. The positions described below involve one man and one woman, but can be modified to suit two women, two men, threesomes, foursomes and larger groups.
The Director’s Chair: In this position, the man sits upright in a chair while the woman sits on his lap with her back to him. She can lower herself onto his penis with her feet on the ground or crouch with her feet propped up on the chair on either side of his legs. The second option will require some serious flexibility on her part — thank goodness for yoga! She can tilt and circle her hips to stimulate her clitoris against his shaft or either partner can use his/her hands to reach down between her legs. This position is even more fun in front of a mirror.
The Wheelbarrow: This is just like the wheelbarrow you formed with a partner when you were a child with the man standing upright supporting the lower body of the woman whose hands are on the ground in a push-up position. Rather than holding her feet, the man brings his pelvis between the woman’s legs. He holds her up by her thighs and she uses her hands on the ground to support herself. Either partner can perform thrusting or circular movements in this position, but the woman will require considerable upper body strength to maintain the movement. If her arms tire, she can take a break, lower onto her elbows and forearms or perform mini butt-pops instead of larger movements.
The Bridge: This position requires some strength and flexibility, but many find it is worth the effort. The woman lies on her back and the man kneels between her legs facing her. She can raise and wrap her legs around his hips as he penetrates her. She then reaches her palms over and behind her head flat against the ground. Her buttocks and hips should be lifted off the floor supported by her partner. When she feels up for it, she presses her palms against the ground to lift her entire back, head and buttocks off the floor so that her body forms a gymnastic bridge with only her hands on the floor. He supports her pelvis and lower body with his hands on her buttocks to reduce the weight she bears on her hands.
The Swan Dive: In this position the man sits on his buttocks with his back upright and his knees slightly bent. The woman straddles his pelvic area on her knees facing away from him so that they are both looking in the same direction. She lowers herself onto his penis and reaches behind her back to clasp her hands behind his neck for support as she leans forward. She should be on her knees with her body leaning forward at a fort-five degree angle to the ground. Her feet come off the ground behind his back and he holds them in his hands for support. Both partners can rock back and forth gently for clitoral, penile and vaginal stimulation. Consider placing a pillow beneath her knees to reduce impact.
Sideways: This position is simple. The woman lays on her side on the edge of the bed and the man stands upright on the ground beside her. She can use her hands, mouth and breasts to caress his penis and testicles and/or he can penetrate her vagina with his penis from various angles. If she rolls over to face away from him, he can stimulate her anus with his hands, mouth or penis. Use lots and lots of lube for anal play and be sure not to insert any objects that have been in the anus into the mouth or vagina without thorough washing and changing the condom.
Progress slowly when experimenting with new positions, make use of your healthy sense of homour and always practice safer sex.
Does Your Partner Cheat?
That Depends On Your Definition of Cheating.
What is cheating? Does a kiss, a long glance, a casual screw, an online romance or a secret emotional connection constitute relationship infidelity? As a culture that celebrates diversity, it is important to remember that relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Accordingly, there is no determinate set of acts or behaviours can be universally considered cheating. Some people are open to (even welcoming of) friendly flirting, intimate friendships and casual threesomes, while others cringe at the thought of sharing their partners.
There is no perfect fit for relationships. Serial monogamy, polyamory, open relationship triads, swinging and a range of other options are all legitimate and potentially challenging arrangements. Proponents of monogamy may claim that their relationship provides more intense intimacy and companionship, while polyamorists may view monogamy as a limiting form of possession.
It is easy to be critical or judgmental of relationships that are different from our own, but ultimately, it is a personal choice and all types of relationships that underscore honesty, equality and respect should be enjoyed and celebrated.
Because our subjective expectations of fidelity within relationships differ, communication is of utmost importance. It may feel unnatural or unromantic to talk about specific expectations, but it is the only sure-fire way to ensure that you’re on the same page as your partners. It is better to talk openly about boundaries before they begin to be challenged as opposed to wondering whether or not your behaviour or that of your partners constitutes cheating.
One advantage of non-monogamous relationships is the absolute need to communicate, establish rules and revisit agreed-upon arrangements. This is not to say that non-monogamous relationships are preferable to monogamous arrangements (non-monogamy presents unique challenges including intense social stigma), but simply that the requisite for open communication provides a framework for discussing desires, concerns and expectations.
Those who opt for the common arrangement of monogamy may feel a greater sense of security and stability; however, as definitions of monogamy (sexual, emotional, intimate, spiritual, etc.) vary, a discussion of personal expectations is absolutely necessary.
Talking about boundaries and expectations also produces a perfect opportunity to discuss the potential for diversity or experimentation within all types of relationships. Clients who are interested in swinging often ask for advice on how to introduce the subject to their partners. While it is unlikely that most people will be open to a sudden change in relationship structure, asking your partners about their fantasies can create an exciting dialogue and produce shared fantasies and role play games that can be even more mind-blowing than the real thing.
But back to the question at hand: what is cheating? In short, cheating involves engaging in any activity (emails, text messages, telephone calls, physical intimacy, emotional companionship, etc.) to which your partners would not consent. A good starting point is to act in a similar manner both in the presence and absence of your partners. If they would be uncomfortable watching you act in a particular manner and you value and respect your relationship, it is likely that you may want to reconsider your behaviour. As relationships differ and evolve with time, the definition of cheating is fluid and is determined only by the individuals involved in the relationship.
Relationships take work and if you value a relationship, you likely care about respecting your partners’ feelings. So if you haven’t done so already, talk it over and determine what activities are appropriate and which ones make you uncomfortable within the context of your unique connection. Consider revisiting your agreement every six or twelve months to discuss any changes or concerns. As your relationship progresses and intimacy intensifies, you may want more or less “monogamy” to keep your love and sex life fun and fulfilling.
If the act of cheating itself turns you on, consider role playing scenarios to fulfill this fantasy. Your partners may need lots of reassurance that it will remain a fantasy and you can rest assured that a well played-out role play will likely be better (and less risky) than the real thing. After all, the best sex often occurs in your head as opposed to between your legs.