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BDSM describes sexual play that involves some exchange of power or pain. B stands for bondage, D stands for dominance and/or discipline, S stands for sadism (pleasure associated with inflicting pain) and/or submission and M stands for masochism (pleasure associated with receiving pain). Sometimes the terms are grouped together in pairs with BD referring to bondage and discipline, DS standing for dominance and submission, and SM referring to sado-masochism.

While BDSM encompasses a wide range of sexual activities, practitioners tend to play complementary roles that involve some degree of power differentials. However, activities are underscored by the consent of all parties involved and BDSM can be a part of healthy, normal and safer sex play.

Playing out sexual fantasies can be a great way to explore new role-play identities and it is not uncommon for powerful and dominant people to enjoy being submissive during sex play. The desire to engage in elements of BDSM play like pain infliction or humiliation during erotic play in no way implies the desire to partake in these activities in other situations. That is, you can be a feminist who loves being sexually dominated by male partners and you can be a gentle, loving friend who enjoys inflicting pain on consensual sex partners. The complexity of these roles, however, requires a strong degree of communication to negotiate the parameters of activities in which you are willing to engage.

Sometimes referred to as scenes or sessions, physical BDSM activities may involve the use of hot wax, leather, massage oil, ropes, gags, leashes, suction cups and even fire. Psychological elements may involve punishment, praise, love, control or humiliation all of which are discussed in advance of each scene. The possibilities are endless – but consent, communication and respect are absolutely necessary to reduce risk and promote pleasure.

While the thought of studded collars, whips, chains and torture poles may conjure up images of violence and danger (supported by sensationalist media portrayals), the reality is that practitioners take many measures to practice safer sex. Pre-play negotiations, educational workshops, the designation of a “safe word”, post-play debriefings alongside the usual (and necessary) use of barrier methods for safer sex are just a few of the precautionary measures that make BDSM sex safer and pleasurable.

But this is really just the beginning…if you are interested in exploring BDSM, begin by checking out this pamphlet or online resource, enrol in a local workshop and be sure to talk to your partner about your interests and discuss your boundaries. All sex play (not just BDSM) should involve honest negotiations and discussion in advance of any physical contact – this is an important component of safer sex and is particularly important to address the potential physical and psychological outcomes associated with BDSM.

Until next time, have fun, experiment and always practice safer sex!

Most of you have probably heard of the G-Spot, but the A-Spot is another exciting zone that can produce intense sexual pleasure as well as rapid lubrication and contractions in some women. Also known as the AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) zone, this area of sensitivity is located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper (anterior) wall where it begins to curve upwards.

Welcome to Alphabet Soup – with a twist! In this special edition of Let’s Talk About Sex, we’ll be going through the alphabet to learn the ABC’s of sex. Check back regularly for alphabetical updates that promise to make the English language a lot more exciting: a is for a-spot, b is for BDSM.

Great news! Research suggests that teenage sex doesn’t necessarily lead to bad grades. No kidding!

If you just read the profit-driven headlines that combine the sensationalism of sex with the precariousness of teenagers, you might believe that there is an indisputable causal link between teens being sexually active and earning lower grades.

Orgasms usually involve involuntary muscle spasms, blood flow to the genitals, heightened sensitivity, increased heart rates and hormone release. They may also include ejaculation in both men and women, a visible sex flush and a subsequent state of deep relaxation.

Many people ask whether enough women need to pay for sex in order for the female brothel to survive. But paying for sex is often more about options than necessity. Many people who choose to pay for sex do not need to pay for sex, but opt to do so.

More good news for sex-lovers! New research out of Princeton University indicates that sex may promote brain cell growth in rats. Check it out…

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Jessica sat down with Chris Hyndman to discuss some of potential health benefits of sex. Chris was a blast and managed to keep his cool even while talking about masturbation, morning sex, orgasms and sex on the set.
Click here to view the video and scroll to third segment for Jessica’s guest appearance.

Jessica’s expertise in sexuality coupled with her natural ability to engage audiences have established her as a go-to media expert in the field. Her recent appearances on Cosmo Tv’s Oh So Cosmo, CTV’s Canada AM and CBC’s Steven and Chris are evidence of Jessica’s unique flair for discussing the sensitive topic of sex with a healthy balance of humour, education and entertainment.

“If you’re feeling greedy and want a lineup of multiple orgasms, the one-night fling is the perfect time to assert your needs and test out your orgasmic potential. Share your hotspots and encourage your partner to do the same.”

From notabletv.com via clp.ly